In our evolutionary, transformational world, there’s a lot of talk about taking personal responsibility. This phrase means that instead of finding external excuses or blaming others when things go wrong, we own the results.
In theory, this is very important.
“If you don’t like where you are, move. You are not a tree.” ~author unknown
As an adult (and I’m assuming you’re over 18 if you’re reading this blog), you’re past the age of blaming others.
For example, if you’re late for an appointment, don’t blame traffic. You probably should have given yourself more time to travel.
If you create a partnership with someone and it starts to go south, instead of blaming them for everything, did you do your due diligence? Did you listen to your intuition about warning signs?
These things you own. Or as Maya Angelou so wonderfully put it:
“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.”
However, there are some times that you have to give yourself a break.
A client of mine was having a serious personal issue going on at the same time she was trying to grow her business. She said that she was blaming herself for the particular problem while at the same time telling herself that she “should” be feeling good about her life.
I believe that sometimes personal responsibility gets carried too far. In other words, it is likely unrealistic for my client to go from feeling miserable to good in one shot. If she can go from miserable to feeling sad or disappointed, that’s a step up in the right direction.
Otherwise, she’s placing a lot of self-judgment on herself, and it then becomes impossible to change to a better feeling place. Blame leads to shame (and that’s a whole other article).
Today, look at how you’re interpreting things in your life. Where are you handing out blame? Where are you taking personal responsibility?
When you can’t change a situation, you can choose to respond instead of reacting.
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