This is my journey. Only 5 short months ago my Dad passed away suddenly. I became a member of a club I never wanted to join. Besides the overwhelming sadness and grief, the thought that wouldn’t leave me is that this experience needs to mean something. My Dad’s passing needs to mean something and me witnessing it needs to mean something.
Eight years ago when I left corporate and before I started my business, I read the most amazing book “Broken Open” by Elizabeth Lesser. It’s one of those books that highly impacted me…in fact, it’s the only book I’ve ever read with a box of Kleenex by my side. And it has given me strength during this very difficult time.
It’s interesting…over the last few weeks, I’ve felt an urgency to de-clutter. Not just to get rid of stuff that no longer serves me, but to also eliminate the people and places that are no longer aligned with the direction I’m headed. I find that when I have less “stuff” around me, it’s easier to think, create, and produce. That’s so important because I need clarity to open myself up to this next chapter of my journey. The one that will forever honor my father.
Have you ever de-cluttered? I absolutely love the experience. With each item I de-clutter, I feel happier and lighter. If a person no longer fits in my life, I release them to the Universe, sending them with love. My train is leaving the station and they don’t have a ticket to ride.
When I look around my home, I ask myself, “What things drive me nuts, need to be replaced or just plain annoy me?” It’s so easy to accept things as they are and forget how they make us feel. I have an acrylic holder that sits inside one of my bathroom drawers. It doesn’t line up, so every time I open the drawer it gets stuck and I have to re-adjust it. It’s been going on for years and I’ve ignored it…even though deep down, I didn’t realize how much it aggravated me. So, I went on Amazon and found its replacement. It fits perfectly and that’s one less thing to clutter my day.
You don’t need to wait for a major event to de-clutter. Look around and start with just one place in your home or life. You’ll be amazed at how much more freedom you feel (and don’t we all want to feel free!).
Here’s what I did:
- Started really paying attentions to my emotions around certain things.
- Made a list of stuff that was really annoying me. Big and small.
- Prioritized the list. I did this determined by how often I interacted with the item and how much it really bothered me.
- Started to eliminate and replace things.
There’s no time limit, but it’s important to pay attention to your emotions. What might really bother you could be perfectly fine to someone else, so don’t judge. Trust your inner guidance.
Having a happy life isn’t just about having a few major experiences. It’s about making each day happier.
Thanks for listening as I shared my thoughts and experiences about my journey. It’s still too early for me to share many of my inner most feelings. When I get to the place where I can, I will.
Kate Beeders, Founder of BRILLIANCE Builders™
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P.P.S. “Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest loss is what dies inside us while we live” ~ Norman