A few days ago, a “friend” ranted on Facebook about how a client didn’t show up for her session.  This woman had waiting in her office and the client never appeared.   It was a long rant…at least 4 paragraphs as to how she’d been done wrong by this client and how she didn’t deserve this to happen to her.  Being so energy sensitive, I was immediately repelled by her post and felt the toxicity of her words.

Many people have heard that it’s good to vent…to get it “off their chest” but the truth is it actually harms you more than helps you.  It keeps you in a place of negativity longer than is needed.

I want to share a story I heard years ago from best-selling author Gary Zukav.  The condensed version takes place when a family of 3 young children and a father get on a bus.  The children are noisy and disrupting the other passengers’ ride.  One passenger got so angry she went up to the father, while complaining, asked if he could keep his children quiet and commented that they should be better behaved.  The father replied, very apologetically, that the children had left the cemetery where their mother had just been buried and they were letting off some of their emotions.

When you first heard about how noisy the children were, didn’t you think the father should have controlled them better?  

Then when you heard the background story, didn’t you feel sorry for the children and father?

Here are the top reasons not to rant: 

1) The number one reason not to rant is you need to find out the story first before going into negative emotions.   Ask the person (or company) what happened, find out the facts and then you can react.

2) When you go into a “rant/vent” mode it actually turns you into a victim.  You lose your point of power and strength and instead become powerless and not in control.  You become reactive instead of proactive.  Is that how you really want to be seen?

3) It really doesn’t look good.  It’s kind of like a toddler throwing a temper tantrum.  This behavior definitely doesn’t show off your best side or your professionalism.

4)  When you rant it keeps you in a place of negative emotions.  If you are looking for people to support you in those negative emotions (tell you how awful it is that something happened)  that is going to keep you in that place.  Ranting doesn’t do anything for you and it doesn’t make you feel better.  Instead it just keeps you in that negative place.

Next time you’re upset about something think before going into a rant state.  I’ll bet you can find a much better way of dealing with it.  Remember that when you’re ranting, you are living in the past instead of in the present!

Lastly, and this is really important – what part do you play in all of this?  

Be Brilliant,

Kate Beeders

Mindset, Money & Marketing Expert

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