What do I do about people who disagree with what I’m doing?
That’s a question I get asked all of the time from clients…mostly newbies or people getting ready to take really big leaps in their business.
When you’re faced with disapproval or doubt, it’s so tough. Most of us are brought up with the basic desire to be loved, liked and have others’ approval. When you don’t get it, it can feel disappointing, frustrating, and confusing.
I remember when I first started my business and my parents (who really and truly love me) kept trying to push me back into the corporate world instead of making a go at an entrepreneurial business. Realistically, I could understand it. After all, the corporate world had provided me with a huge income, lots and lots of benefits, a great place to work and a “title” for my business card…and of course, the perception of “job security with a steady paycheck”. My parents hated seeing me give that all up.
Even now, when I take on new opportunities such as hosting international retreats, I still feel the concern. What I’ve learned to do (and what I teach my clients) has totally changed others’ reactions…and ultimately, helped me maintain my self-confidence.
Here’s what you need to understand when you face this obstacle:
- People who you talk to are coming from their own story, fears and doubts. That clouds (however, unintentional it might be) them from being fully present and more supportive.
- There will be some people who are jealous and don’t want to see you do something that either is so different from what they’re doing…or something they’d really like to do, yet don’t have the courage.
What I recommend is:
- Be very, very picky about who you share your dreams, goals, and desires with. Again, however, unintentional it might be, if you tell something to someone and you haven’t quite solidified it in your own mind, it can quickly pop a hole in your balloon!
- Not everything is meant to be shared with everyone. Be discerning about what you discuss and who you tell. I teach my clients how to determine who should be in their “inner circle”.
- Really get grounded about this new level before sharing with others. Have that person you can share with…in my case, it’s my coach…as you work out your own fears and doubts around this process. You need a place to be and feel safe where you aren’t judged.
Too often, I’ve talked to people who told me that they were all set to move forward until someone talked them out of it. Don’t let anyone talk you out of your dreams!
Kate Beeders, Founder of BRILLIANCE Builders™
Attracting Clients is Easy When You Let Your True Brilliance Shine
P.S. Are you ready to move to that next level and are ready to hire a mentor? Let’s talk. Email my team at Info@KateBeeders.com so we can connect.