Speaking on stages all across the country and locally, I often get invited to participate in  lots of terrific opportunities…, and every now and then, some not so terrific.

It was a lousy connection and he was calling from his cell phone.  I told him I couldn’t really hear him and asked him to call back.  I missed his return call but not his message which was quite snarky (a Boston word for “rude”).  Debating about whether or not to call him back, I decided to.  He told me he was interested in having me speak on a big panel.  As I listened to him tell me the names of the topics, none were right for me.  He tried to talk me into it, but I gracefully declined and wished him well.   Truthfully, there was so much negative energy coming from his end of the phone, I thought he burned out the connection!

My mistake was not trusting my intuition and even bothering to call him back.  Note to self.

Teaching how to attract ideal clients and opportunities is something I do often.  However, what I haven’t shared in a while, is how to decide whether someone (something) is or isn’t, ideal.  In other words, just because they want to work with you…, or just because they call you, doesn’t make them the best candidate for you.  Sometimes you just have to send them love and give them to the Universe.

Here are my 3 strategies of determining if something/someone is or isn’t ideal for you:

1. Ask yourself if this person/opportunity aligns with your goals and visions. For example, I help entrepreneurs accelerate their success through the use of my mindset and marketing expertise.  If someone wanted me to help them create a website, I might be able to give them a few suggestions but my expertise is not with the technical side of this.  If I said yes to them, I would have to spend time to learn this new skill instead of focusing on what I’m already really great at.   I’d prefer to refer them to a trusted resource and move on.  Yet, many entrepreneurs don’t want to lose the “sale” so they say yes and end up creating more problems for themselves than need be.

2. I also recommend making a list of traits of your ideal clients/opportunities. What did you like most about these things?  What about them appealed to you?  Get as specific as you can.  Then, the next time something pops up for you, you can compare it to your list and see how it fits in.   Check and see if this has the qualities and qualifications you are looking for.

3. My favorite strategy is to listen to my intuition. Truthfully, this can be the hardest as there is often the noise of the fear and doubt in the way.  You have to really be able to discern what is the truth and what is your story.   A warning, as that this is a skill that has to be strengthened.  For many years, you haven’t used it.  You were never taught to use it, however, you were born with this capacity.  It’s just like learning to lift weights.  Each time you do it, it will get easier and easier.

Where so many go wrong is thinking they have to prove themselves to the other person.   Kind of like “how high can they jump” to get the sale.   It’s actually incorrect.  Both sides have to be worthy of the other to be a good match.   That’s where the magic happens.

Try this and let me know how it works for you.  If you’d like to have a breakthrough session with me to uncover how to really make the magic happen in your business, apply here:   http://www.tinyurl.com/moneybreak