It’s so easy to go into victim mode. I know because I’ve been there more times than I care to count. The problem is that when that happens, we lose our power.
Recently, my girl (and very awesome Cairn Terrier) Cali had an emergency that required taking her to the animal hospital. If you know me, you know I’ll do anything for my girl.
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However, the truth is that I was totally jet-lagged, having just returned home from a speaking gig in Canada and really was looking forward to climbing into bed early for a good night’s sleep. Instead, I ended up spending over four hours in the emergency room, comforting a very scared dog while sitting on a wooden bench. Well after midnight and several hundred dollars later we were able to leave.
Truthfully, (and don’t judge me) when I got home, I had a bit of a pity party for myself. You know those thoughts that go through your head:
- Why does this always happen to me?
- Why did it take so long it resolved?
- This isn’t fair
- Why can’t things go smoothly?
My mind starting traveling down that victim mode trail. Woe is me. My first reaction was that life wasn’t supporting me. My stress level was climbing and something inside of me said “stop”. Even though I was very tired, I was able to pull myself out of it and shift how I looked at that evening.
Here’s what I did so it can help you in the future.
I asked myself what the truth was. Not the truth according to Kate (me) but the real truth.
The answer to that was this:
- Thank goodness I have an animal hospital (one of the best in the country) within 20 minutes from where I live
- Cali’s injury (although painful) was not life-threatening compared to some of the animals that came in while we were waiting
- Cali will be ok after she was treated by the veterinarian
- It’s only money. I can replace the money. I can never replace my girl.
As I was able to re-frame my thoughts, I started to look at the evening’s experience with gratitude. That put me back into a place of power and confidence instead of feeling bad for myself.
The next time you’re thinking that life isn’t supporting you ask yourself “what is really the truth?”. Get the answers to stop yourself before you start to fall into that victim mode and instead shift into gratitude.
Kate Beeders, The Breakthrough Expert and Founder of BRILLIANCE Builders™
Tap into Your Zone of Brilliance and Breakthrough Your Financial Glass Ceiling
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